Flirting is not always so innocent. All too frequently, playing with fire results in cheating, which, in its turn, brings unpleasant outcomes. Ragnar Beer, a famous psychologist from Goettingen, organized a research, interviewing 2600 people of both sexes who cheated on their significant other at least once. The results were shocking: most of the cheating men and women – over 80% to be exact – loved their partners.
1. Playing Around Lasts Longer Than a One Night Stand
The research destroyed the myth of traditional infidelity as a one-night stand. Only 12% of cheating women and 15% of men dared the adventure. The majority were faithful to their infidelity: nearly 60 percent of the respondents admitted their adulterous affair lasted longer than a month, and the rest – longer than half a year.
2. Infidelity to Be Continued…
Having cheated once, people will do again. Only 49% of unfaithful husbands and 55% of unfaithful wives cheated once in a committed relationship. 17% of men cheated on their spouses before entering into a relationship, 12% played the trick twice, and 22% – many a time. Women are keeping pace with men: 20% betrayed their husbands twice, and 10% – three times. 15% cuckolded their spouses more than three times.
3. Reason for Cheating – Suppression of Sexual Desires
Boredom and silence – these are the most common reasons why a partner seeks pleasure outside the marriage. For example, just 31% of cheating wives and 25% of cheating husbands were willing to discuss their sexual desires. By the way, only 27% of female cheaters and 17% of male cheaters knew their partner’s sexual needs.
4. Well-wishers Will Always Reveal Infidelity
A chance, on its own, doesn’t play a small part in disclosing a secret. 44% of deceived men (46% of women) uncovered cheating by themselves.
- 30% of betrayed men (24% of women) learnt from their partners that adultery took place.
- Only 3% of men (6% of women) get the third-hand information.
- 21% of men (19% of women) spotted infidelity by chance.
5. An Infidelity Is Never Forgotten
The hopes that infidelity can be forgiven and forgotten failed.
43% of offended men (61% of offended women) were still not able to forgive their spouses in half a year after the affair became known.
11% of cheated men (20% of women) felt their love turning to hate in half a year after they experienced betrayal.
Key to a Happy Marriage
The basis for successful relationship is sexual satisfaction for both partners. Couples should keep a close watch on their sexual needs, discuss problems and desires, and share exactly what they need. Nobody said it would be easy. But it is worth doing if you want your marriage to be happy.