Previously, the divorce of spouses was something extraordinary, but today it is quite an ordinary moment. Yet, some of us still think about the partner’s previous “luggage” and doubt the practicality of the current relationship. Therefore, asking him a few questions before entering a relationship will not be superfluous. Based on the answers, you will understand whether you should stay with him or not. The conclusions drawn, the mistakes corrected and the interests of the second half made a choice more conscious, and the relationship stronger.
Before starting a new relationship with a divorced man, you should find out a few key points:
How many times has he been married
If your new partner has already been married, this is definitely a good sign, but if this has happened many times, you should be wary. Feel free to ask questions – find out the reasons, listen to his opinion and analyze his position. If nothing bothers you, feel free to move on to a new relationship stage.
Reason for divorce
You should not attack the man with detailed questions, especially if you have recently met. Firstly, this is not the most pleasant topic for communication, and, secondly, on first dates, he is unlikely to tell you the whole truth. If you understand that the relationship is developing and becoming serious, this topic must be raised. You can delicately find out the reasons for the divorce.
Perhaps the man will talk about past relationships from a convenient position, but the main reason will be clear. The relationship could end due to a hasty decision, inability to agree, or, for example, the partner’s infidelity.
Sometimes serious points come up in the course of such a conversation. They will determine your future, if, for example, the previous relationship ended because the man did not want to have children.
Reviews of past relationships
How he speaks about his past relationships and the woman with whom he was in a relationship is a significant indicator. This characterizes him as a man, a decent person, and a person who respects the past and the woman he once loved.
If the reviews are always negative, this is a terrible sign because the same scenario awaits you if you cannot be together.
How he communicates with children from a previous marriage
Communication with children is the most important indicator. See how often he meets with children from a previous marriage. Does he want to spend time with them, does he take them for the weekend, does he take them on vacation, does he participate in their life? Does he regularly pay alimony, and does he help them in any other way when necessary? You may not like this moment, but it is definitely a good sign that you should pay attention to.
The above-mentioned will help you understand what the man’s life values are and what you can expect from him in your joint future.
You should not be afraid to enter a relationship with a divorced man. Men often marry, succumbing to emotions or under the pressure of a woman. As a rule, such marriages do not last long, which is not an indicator of his dishonesty or frivolity. By asking all the questions we mentioned above, you can clearly understand whether it is worth starting a relationship with a new acquaintance.