A mom who is bent on making a career and studying toward it has quite a challenge! Whether she is coming back to the classroom full-time or chose to take an online training course, she will have to do some rearranging to adapt her lifestyle to the new obligations. Is it possible to combine the two, and remain a caring mother whilst cramming for your degree? It is, and here are some of the ways to attain your goal without straining your home life unnecessarily.
Write out a minute-by-minute schedule
To live your life by a tight schedule is not always a good idea, making your life more rigid than it deserves to be, but this time you are in for it. You have to put your life on rails and run it as smoothly as you can. So schedule your study-time and don’t forget to include the amounts of material you mean to cover. You will find a set routine is helpful in dealing with different unpredictable come-ups in your stride. Needless to say, you can’t afford to ignore the schedule – it can bring down the whole structure about your ears.
Find time for the child
Besides studying, your schedule must include regular quality time you spend with your child – like some time before bedtime when you can stay alone with them and give them these very much needed reassurances of your love and attention. Good quality time can be when you cook dinner. You will want to make good use of weekends for making headway with your studies, but also mind you planned a couple of hours to take the little one for a walk, to the zoo or to an amusement park. First, you’ll get a good rest; second, you clock up quality time, and finally, it can wear them out for a long sound nap and therefore give you more time to concentrate on your studies.
Stretch out your day
You have two great responsibilities on your shoulders, a little life you have to “mom” into adulthood, and your studies that are supposed to give meaning to your working life. There must be a time when the two are strictly separated. You can get an uninterrupted timespan either in the early hours of the morning or late at night with the others sleeping. It’s tough, but it is worth your while.
Bringing the two together
Try and bring together your studies and having your child around with some regularity. You should expect to have some moments when you have to catch up on your school but you have the kid on your hands. Be prepared with a number of ruses to eliminate interruptions: think of an activity for the child and get them suitably impressed with its importance – let her achieve drawing a perfect circle or give him a task of making an origami of some difficulty. The child will be happy doing things for you, and you will be able to give yourself wholly to the text-books.
At times you have so much to do – chores, homework – that it seems you’re stuck and there won’t be an end to it. Well, it means, sometimes you just need to seek help or delegate a part of your tasks, for example, your homework. Spending some more time with your family is worth paying a certain amount of money to a homework helper and comprehend the complex topic faster. You won’t need to start doing your homework at night when your kids are finally asleep. That wouldn’t be a good time for your brain. Also, you won’t have the feeling of guilt for working on your future qualification and career instead of taking care of the little people you brought to this world. Alternatively, you may use the saved time for taking your partner out on a date!
Round up a supporting team
The people in your closest circle (your partner, family members, friends) must know about your plans well beforehand and know that you take it very seriously and stake your future life on the success of your studies. They should expect your relying on them for assistance. Don’t live your life as if you were alone; ask for babysitting, car use, let them hear you out and voice their encouragement. People will be only too glad to help you.
Time to be yourself
Squeeze in some time strictly for yourself once a week. You need to relax and let your brain wind down. Pick up a book or play a video that doesn’t require great concentration. The sillier it is the better rest it will provide! Anything that will be your heart’s content goes. The main thing for you is to feel completely re-charged afterwards. Even if you don’t feel it so bad, the multi-tasking life you are leading puts a great strain upon you, and you must deal with it if you want to go on.
The last but not the least is to stay kind and considerate to yourself and those around you. This is a highly pressing period in your life when you have to press on with your studies without neglecting your child and family. If you are able to combine schooling and communication successfully through a perfect schedule, you can’t go wrong. Besides, it will be an excellent example to your child/children how they should handle their own education in future!