The Ultimate Guide to Overcoming Your Shyness in Bed

Are you shy in bed? Does it feel embarrassing to take your clothes off in front of someone else and have them do the same?


Shyness can be both a positive and a negative thing. To your man, shyness can mean a lack of experience, but his actual thoughts and reaction may be quite different from what you realize. Why? Because in reality, you being shy could get him harder than steel in seconds. Why would that be? Because to us guys, a shy girl probably hasn’t had a lot of partners – shy girls are usually inexperienced and it could mean that you are a virgin! Woohoo!

In a lot of ways, guys are totally turned on by the thought of being the one to turn you from that shy little girl next door to the wild and sexy, nympho that we secretly wished you were! So, don’t look at shyness as a negative thing at first. Use it to your advantage.

But if your man has been with you for a while and you are still shy in bed, then that may be a cause for concern.

If you really do have a problem with feeling shy in bed, then you have to ask yourself why. Why do you feel shy?

It could be because of your religious upbringing. You may have been brought up to believe that sex should only be done in the missionary position, and it’s only use is to pro-create. But trust me – while you are sitting there limiting your own enjoyment of sex, your pastor or rabbi or minister or whoever is having wild sex behind the scenes! They have probably had more sexual partners than you can shake a stick at, and all the while, repeating the old, archaic admonition to not enjoy sex because it isn’t holy… There is nothing wrong with fully enjoying sex. After all, the clit is only there for pleasure! So, if God didn’t want you to have pleasure, why did he invent your clitoris? And why did he invent your g-spot too? The notion that you shouldn’t enjoy sex is ludicrous.

One of the main reasons why women are shy in bed is because they are not happy with their body. You are probably harder on yourself than anyone else would ever be. Women are raised with this idea that they have to look like a barbie doll or else they aren’t good enough. Why? In reality, it’s all about money and greed. Unrealistic expectations are put on women in order to get them to buy cosmetics so that more corporations can make more money! It’s a scam. And the quicker you realize that what is going on in your head is more important than how you look, the better.

The truth is that your best sex organ is between your ears – it’s your mind – in your brain. It’s your attitude and your approach to sex that turns us on the most. This explains why some women are able to attract and keep a man when they aren’t even that attractive. It’s because of how they think and feel when they are in bed!

I’ll take an average, care-free, wild child of a woman over some hot, prissy, cold girl any day. When a guy has sex with a woman who doesn’t want to lose herself in the moment and fully enjoy it, he usually feels that he might as well have sex with a doll! Seriously.

This is why it is important for you to drop the shyness. Use it at first – play the part of that quiet, shy girl if you want. In many ways, that’s very hot. But then, when it comes to the actual act, it’s time to let your tiger out!

As a matter of fact, there is probably nothing more sexy than getting a girl who seems innocent and shy, and then being there to see her unleash her inner nymphomaniac self. Why? Because we want to believe that we BRING THAT OUT IN YOU. Whether true or not, is not the point. The point is that to go from the contrast of shy and innocent to wild and insatiable is very hot.

So, use it. Use that natural shy feeling that you have to your advantage. And realize that once we already have you in bed, we are already past the attraction part. You don’t have to worry about your saggy breasts or the dimples in your butt!

One thing that you can do in order to break the prude feeling that you have is to get naked and look at yourself in the mirror. Go ahead! You have my permission!

Now, move into many different poses as if you were a model. Look for your best angle. Or, do a strip tease for yourself in front of the mirror and look for your best parts. Move around and find your best look. Then, when you are in the bedroom with your man, pose for him in your favorite naked pose. Why? Mainly because it will make you feel more confident and sexy, but also because it will turn him on too!

Even though shyness may be a problem in bed, if you can use it to your advantage and allow yourself to let go and get wild and crazy with passion, then shyness can be a benefit. He will love the contrast of seeing you go from a shy girl to a wild and insatiable, passionate woman in minutes.

In reality, shyness is a very attractive quality to an extent – as long as it leads to great sex! And the more you learn to accept yourself and to learn to let go so that you can be wild and free in bed, the better!

Author’s Bio:
Jack Hutson is the author Jack’s Blowjob Lessons, the best-selling oral sex guide for women that has saved thousands of relationships. You can follow him on his blog.

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