In all times when it came to making friends and getting involved in relationships, gregarious people won one over those who were on the shy side. Sometimes this realization makes shy people feel inferior as if they were deprived of something important, and dating gets to be a stressful occasion for them. Happily, it needn’t be this way. There is nothing actually to create an insurmountable obstacle between timid ones and those who share their interests and can make ideal partners for them given certain circumstances.
Of course, many things hang on the approach. A negative approach will begin to spoil everything even where there’s nothing to spoil. A positive frame of mind, on the other hand, is practically a guarantee that dating will feel as pleasant as it comes, and a cheerful attitude is certain to make people well-disposed towards you. Then, a couple of pieces of good advice will make you feel stronger and more self-assured.
Come across as a friendly smiley person
Get into a habit of smiling – a smile is something that everybody understands and welcomes. When you are too shy to talk, you can speak volumes with a smile. You can show a person that you are glad to have met them, and they will be happy to know it.
Even people who are not so shy can be discouraged by an indifferent attitude on part of the one they would like to socialize with – indifference is everyone’s problem and a smile is everyone’s sign of acceptance and readiness to proceed with a budding relationship. Smiling opens the door to confidence, helps create an initial bond without the need of a clever and easily handled conversation. If there is a perfect beginning, it is a smile.
Accrue your confidence gradually
Shyness is often an aftermath of too much doubt or too little self-confidence. You should teach yourself to feel more assured with each passing day. So if you are out for some serious dating, start pampering yourself up with things like purchasing new clothes, experimenting with your hairstyle, or refreshing your gym workouts. All of these will improve your general well-being as well as the self-assurance needed to feel comfortable around other people.
Appoint dates when and where you will feel comfortable
It seems to be habitual with a lot of people to make dates in a bar or a restaurant with a lot of other people around, a lot of noise and bustle. However, it isn’t a binding rule. If you would like you and your date not to mingle with others and stay away from noisy places, you can always invite them for a walk in the park and have coffee or beer at a quiet eatery which isn’t crowded.
Reap the benefits of online dating
The Internet allows for many comforts while you are socializing with others. While those who are gregarious and outgoing may feel better when they have a spontaneous conversation face to face, people who are reserved and rather timid would certainly prefer to play the game by online rules.
Internet socializing takes the pressure off conversing: it may be a slower and a bit duller way of bonding, yet one can keep up chats at one’s own pace and avoid unwelcome evasiveness. What’s more, you sidestep irritating surroundings and distractions of a public place and can concentrate on the person you want to get to know better.
Seek friends’ assistance
If it’s really difficult for you to overcome your timidity, your diffidence gets the better of you when you are with others, turn to your friends for help. Your friends know you well and ought to be ready to come to the rescue. Ask their advice on how to conduct a conversation better. The realization that they support you will bolster you up in search of a person you could share your life with.
