Comments on: Why Couples Conflict about Sex

By: Veronica

Veronica — Thu, 13 Oct 2011 17:15:28 +0000

Hi Tom, unfortunately you may have just been unlucky with girls you’ve dated. Currently I’m the one in the relationship craving sex more. When we have it, it’s amazing but 2-3 times a week isn’t enough for me. For any men out there with a lower sex drive, have you ever stayed with a partner with a higher one? I don’t know how to make it work.

By: Tom

Tom — Wed, 05 Oct 2011 20:02:17 +0000

The graph is wrong. Just go to the Kinsey Institute’s website. Men desire sex more than women at every stage of life. We masturbate more, think about sex more, desire kinky sex more, etc. Sexual orientation doesn’t change a thing: gay men have more sex than lesbians. Men are just more sexual. As a straight guy, I don’t this one bit, but it’s a fact. Strangely, many women don’t like admitting this. They say things like “I LOVE sex, I want it just as much as my boyfriend.” Then they go home and don’t have sex with their boyfriends. I’m not sure I believe the “I had this one girlfriend who wanted it all the time” stories. Maybe I’ve just been unlucky. I’ve dated a couple of girls who at the beginning of the relationship wanted almost as much sex as I did, but most of the girls I’ve been with have wanted FAR less.

By: Chris

Chris — Wed, 20 Jul 2011 21:17:28 +0000

I’m 28 (almost 29) and my younger boyfriend of the ripe age of 24 have different sex drives. You would think he would be the ambitious one but surprisingly its me. He is up at 4:30 am and ready for bed by 9:30 pm. I understand he is tired and has a full schedule but as a woman I have needs too. He is content with sex on the weekends and even then its only once a day if that. He asked me why I want it all the time and I asked why he didn’t. We used to have sex all the time. He used to not be able to keep his hands off of me and out weekends consisted of naked movies and lots of showers. Now I’m lucky if I get a nice comment from him. I feel like although we communicate about everything else wonderfully we are not on the same page sexually. Are we coming to an end?

By: Glendalis

Glendalis — Mon, 06 Jun 2011 17:57:10 +0000

I am 25 years old and my boyfriend is 40. He only wants to have sex 2x per week, but i am at a stage in life where i want more!!! He says he does feel desire to be with me and I know he can get it hard… but nothing. he says its him and if we do it often he feels pain when he has an orgasm, what can we do? is it normal for a man his age to only be interested in sex 2x a week? And it was only about a year ago he wanted it everyday, is it normal for change to occur so suddenly???

By: alberto

alberto — Sun, 16 Jan 2011 17:12:26 +0000

me and my girlfriend have been toghetehr for 7 years. we have had a nice sexual relationship for a while but the last year is no good . she doenst want or desire oral sex at all. and unitll i dont iniciate the touch she never strats toget into it. meaning i always have to be the initiator. also now i am afraid to get close or start warming up bacuse i would get dissapointed.
i like sex and i am very active , i am 50 yeras old and she is 29. please try to explain her behaviour.

By: Alicia

Alicia — Wed, 08 Dec 2010 02:16:51 +0000

I have a problem, I am 22 and my husband is 29. Most of the time I have to either make him feel bad, complain, or practicaly beg him to have sex. It’s even so bad that sometimes I pick a fight just to make up, but where this problem gets tricky is the other day I found some porn that he downloaded on the computer and he got very defensive about it when I asked him. We have great sex and I am not one of those women that are closed minded. I have taught him things he never knew so I know it’s not because I’m not doing things that he was to do but I still don’t understand why. Someone please give me some advice.