Why Do We Refuse Sex
- Monday, January 18, 2010, 13:48
- Relationships
- 4 comments
One in five married persons regularly finds excuse not to have sex with their partners, claim British sociologists who interviewed 4,000 men and women. Scientist looked at why spouses do not want to make love.
Sex and Headache
They did a list of top ten reasons to refuse having sex. Having headache was the most popular excuse previously. The phrase, Honey, let’s do it another time, I have a headache, was heard in many movies and jokes. Now it was topped by another reason, tiredness. The phrase I’m very tired is currently at number one on the list of reasons to refuse sex, according to Daily Mail.
Sociologists highlight that office work and corporate culture affect marriage in a negative way. The fear of being sidelined pushes career-oriented people to focus on their job, neglecting other areas of life.
Top Ten Reasons to Refuse Sex
- I’m very tired
- I’m not in the mood
- I have a headache
- I have to get up early tomorrow
- I’m worried about my job
- I’m angry with you
- Children may hear us doing it
- You have to take a shower
- My back hurts
- It’s too early for it
Why Do Men Refuse Sex
It turned out that contrary to the stereotype that men are ready to have sex at any time, they refuse sex more often than women. 28 percent of polled men and 18 percent of polled women admitted they try to avoid their bedroom duties. Men’s reasons to refuse sex, unfortunately, lie deeper than just having a headache or stress.
The survey showed that one third of men don’t want to have sex with their wives because they don’t love them anymore. They prefer not to discuss it for the sake of the family and their children. The same was true with one in five women polled who said they don’t want to have sex with their husband or long-time boyfriend because their feelings died.
Why Do We Avoid Talking about Sex
Most people try to avoid talking about sex, if they have to discuss their sex problems. It may seem that bedroom is the perfect place for sincere talk about sex life, but these talks do not happen because half of spouses pretend sleeping when their partner is getting into bed. The same reason explains why 40 percent of men and 20 percent of women avoid going to bed simultaneously with their partner. It seems like men and women act like children who don’t want to take on responsibility when it comes down to talking about sex.
Sex Crisis and Economic Crisis
One in five polled said that financial crisis and problems related to it took a toll on their sex life. According to a representative from marketing agency OnePoll that took part in the survey, financial crisis entered even bedrooms. Many people are now working more than ever. They are constantly preoccupied with worrying questions about their wealth and success. Am I going to be fired tomorrow? Will I be able to clean up my credit? It goes without saying that such thoughts may impair sex life.
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IM A 32 YEAR OLD WOMAN, I MOVED IN WITH MY 38 YEAR OLD BOYFRIEND 5 MONTHS AGO. WE HAVE A BIG SEX ISSUE: HE NEVER WANTS TO DO IT, IM LUCKEY IF I GET IT ONCE A WEEK, AND WHEN HE DOES I FEEL THAT HE IS JUST ‘DOING ME THE FAVOR’. I DONT THINK THIS IS NORMAL, MY FRIENDS THINK IS REALLY WEIRD AND THAT MAYBE HE’S GAY, WHAT DO U THINK. IF THE SITUATION CONTINUES I AM PLANNING OF MOVING BACK OUT. I JUST CAN’T LIVE LIKE THAT, IS KILLING ME INSIDE
This is not an accurate article. It is common knowledge that it is women who almost always refuse to have sex with husband and the opposite is very rarely true.
im lucky to get i once in 3 months
Jeff-
you’re wrong! While it is a common myth that women turn down sex often and men rarely do, that is not at all the reality.
From my own perspective, I want sex all the time (everyday, multiple times a day, at least 3-5 times a week), my boyfriend rarely wants it. It has now been 6 weeks since we’ve ‘done the deed.’
So, really?!