Comments on: Sex and Marriage

By: JJ

JJ — Tue, 01 Sep 2009 19:53:00 +0000

I am 35 years old and my partner is 37. We have two children. I would like to be able to be intimate with my partner 2 or 3 times a week. My partner feels that 2 or 3 times a month is enough. In fact, every time we are intimate, it actually feels as if she was doing me a favor. Needless to say, I have to take the initiative. The last time I gave her room to take the initiative, we did not have sex for more than a month. I make sure that she climaxes every time we have intercourse, but this still does not encourage her to have sex more often, or to look forward to have sex. Although she can set the limits on how often we have intercourse, I don’t have a say on how active our sex life should be. Furthermore, she has a full set of boundries, no-nos, rules on things she is willing or unwilling to do, things she does not like, etc. I can understand someone not liking certain things, but sometimes I feel like I am paying for sex and that anything else other than the actual penetration is forbidden.

By: pankaj

pankaj — Tue, 05 May 2009 11:21:25 +0000

good stuff

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10 Tips for a Happy Marriage | Relationships — Wed, 22 Apr 2009 22:49:03 +0000

[...] Keep looking for something positive in your spouse’s character and appearance and tell him about your discoveries. Knowing his merits, he is going to strive to be even better. Never miss a chance to tell him you feel good and comfortable in his company. By elevating his self-esteem you bolster his attachment to you. More than that, this kind of confessions stimulates and energizes him. Never forget: in spite of your view of the perfect lover, it is you who determines a lot in your own sexual life. [...]

By: Jennifer

Jennifer — Sun, 01 Mar 2009 15:50:26 +0000

It was the same in our family. After I gave birth sex happens so rarely, I can even name those few days…

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How Much Sex Do You Need? | Women & Men — Wed, 18 Feb 2009 23:17:22 +0000

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12 Facts about Calories | Diet & Weightloss — Thu, 29 Jan 2009 13:32:02 +0000

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By: Marcus

Marcus — Mon, 24 Nov 2008 18:38:56 +0000

The same happened in my family. The dating period was hot, then we married and started living together, the first 1-1,5 year sex was great, too and after it we had it less and less often, as you say, the hormones are not released. And now we’ve been living together for 4,5 years and my wife gave birth to our son and because if him we have to sleep in separate rooms – me in our bedroom and her in the baby’s, because I need to wake up early and work and he is crying all night long. I love our baby but I miss those hot days we could have sex 2-3 times a day.

By: Wife

Wife — Mon, 24 Nov 2008 16:11:40 +0000

Unfortunately very often it’s egoism that prevails in the sexual relationship, especially regarding men. And after this attitude to the partner they sincerely wonder why women don’t want to have sex with them.