At some point though I have to switch gears and go “inward”. Sometimes this requires a short break, perhaps a change of position. Now she orgasms usually just once, but very hard. And afterward she loses some of her energy. She sometimes compensates for that by “mirror-syncing” up with me. It’s not faking since we both know what she’s doing….it’s more like play acting. She starts matching my sub-verbal cues and rhythms then adding to them to basically “rev” me up. Think of it as a jockey urging on her mount although technically she the one being…..well, maybe that wasn’t such a good example. *LOL* But I think you get the idea.

But if you’re really in tune with you’re partner, many times you can see when the passion drops out. A distraction at the wrong moment, and uncomfortable position, or a bad rhythm are some of the causes. Some times she just “taps out”. Basically that’s our signal that she lost her passion, but I should go for mine if I can. This all works because we are honest with each other and usually we just need a little more foreplay or a little pillow talk to reset the mood. We don’t get in a hurry and we don’t get discourage and in the end we both usually get at least one good, honest, orgasm each. I like to think we make it more about the whole journey than just “crossing the finish line.”

Frankly, she ends up getting more orgasms than me, but she enjoys having sex more often so over all, I believe I’m getting way more sex than I would with being more selfish.